How to be a Good Submissive Ideas & Methods
How to be a good Sub – Submissive Guide
The biggest question almost every submissive asks themselves on a daily, almost hourly, basis is how can I be a good submissive?
They want to serve their Mistress properly. They honour and respect her and don’t wish to annoy, upset or more importantly, disappoint her.
The other most frequently asked questions are how do I be an acceptable slave and how do I do what is required of me?
Well, the most obvious answer is to listen and do as you are told. It’s pretty simple stuff really and so basic but listen to what she tells you to do and do it to a T.
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Don’t hesitate, definitely don’t question her and don’t add your own little things in there. For example, if she tells you to kiss her shoes, don’t work your way up her leg as well.
That being said though, none of these questions actually have a proper, solid answer. There is no proper and “right” answer to the questions.
The world of BDSM is so massive and complex that each individual Mistress has her own set of guidelines and principles as to what will make a submissive an acceptable slave for her.
Combine that with the fact that each individual act also has its own set of rules for acceptability of compliance and you have an absolute minefield when you try to pinpoint what is good.
For example, sissification slaves will have different sets of acceptability than anal slavery, and cock mock subs getting SPH from a cruel size queen will be required to act differently than a JOI submissive.
There are hundreds upon hundreds of Mistresses online right now, and it is equally as important to a sub who wants to be a good slave to find a Domme who knows what she is doing. Many women think to be a Dominatrix involves being a ballbuster.
Slapping a man’s face, calling him a loser or a pig and tying him to a cross and whipping him for half an hour but there is a whole lot more to it than that.
The key to being a good slave is having a good Mistress. Any decent Dominatrix who has researched and studied the role knows that to get the best from a slave, to make him as effective and worthwhile to you as possible, then you have to nurture him and help him grow to serve you the way you want and deserve to be.
Now vanilla people (and women who don’t know how to be a Domme) will think that is just crazy talk. You don’t nurture a slave. You treat them like shit and make them kiss your feet and crawl around the floor before you beat their balls, don’t you? Wrong. Well, technically speaking no its wrong, but a slave is like a pencil.
It is only good for you in one piece. It can be useful and used whenever you need it, and it will do a good job for you if it is in one piece at all times. If you break it, then it ceases to be any good to you after that.
A slave is exactly the same. If you break him, he won’t be any good to you. He should fear you, fear your wrath, but not be so terrified that he freezes when he hears your voice. (This is true of some submissives though.
Some of them want to be terrified of women but for the most part, this is the exception rather than the rule). Therefore, do not just pick the first Mistress you see and assume the onus is all on you to be a good submissive. You need to be careful and find the right fit Mistress for you as well.
On this live femdom cams site, there are dozens of Dominas who are all experienced and all experts in the world of female domination.
They all know how to be the ultimate Goddess and they all know how to get the very best out of their subs. You want to be a good submissive?
Join this site now and serve under one of these Dommes because they will take whatever area of BDSM you are into and hone your skillset in it till you are the best slave you can be. They are strict, cruel and heartless but you will learn to follow their orders to the exact way they expect them to be followed and actioned on.
The First Things you need to Accept in the slave rules
One of the first things you need to accept is whether you are a fantasy submissive or a lifestyle one. For the most part and the majority, most subs are only in it for the fantasy and for as long as a femdom session.
There is a world of difference between an hour or two as a slave and living the lifestyle 24/7 as a relationship sub. If you are only in it for the fantasy then that is 100% fine, but you need to admit this in order to be the very best for that period of time.
Once you have admitted that, you need to then decide what areas of BDSM you are into and what areas are a definite no-no for you. Again, the vanillas will recoil in shock. “What, the slave decides things he won’t do?
Fantasy versus reality
Doesn’t she make him do anything she wants?” No, she doesn’t. The fantasy is she is making him do things against his will but the reality is it is 100% his choice.
This needs to be done so that you are only doing what you “want” to do. If you want to be humiliated but mean things like being made to dance around then you need to be clear. Don’t just say “Humiliate me Mistress” because she might launch into small penis humiliation, splosh (covering you in foodstuff) or make you sing songs.
Since you are not “into” any of these things you will find it difficult to let go of yourself and will hold back, which in turn will lead you to be ineffective as a sub and not be the best sub you can be.
Likewise, if you say you want cock and ball torture but have a low pain threshold then you need to say you only want some light slapping. If you don’t, and she launches in kicks and pulling your balls then you will understandably not enjoy your session and will be a terrible slave for her by fighting against her abuse.
The Dominatrix is not a Mindreader
The abuse she thinks you wanted because you were not clear. These Dominas are great at what they do, and extremely professional, but they are not mind readers. You need to tell them what you want so they can fashion your session round about it.
You also need to tell her what type of Domination you want. There are two main types. Sensual and strict.
The difference between sensual and strict Domination
Sensual domination is where the Mistress is strict but kind. She will rarely, if ever, yell, will not generally employ the use of whips or canes and will most likely also say please and thank you to you.
None of these should be construed as a sign of weakness though. She is still very much in charge and should be respected and bowed down to at all times, it’s just she is a kinder type of owner. Any pain inflicted will be mild or done gently
Strict femdom domination, on the other hand, is much more hardcore. This involves being berated, name-called, insulted, slapped, kicked, spat on, yelled at, forced to your knees, ball busted and generally treated like dirt.
Subs looking for sensual Dom will not respond well to having their balls beaten and their face slapped. Likewise, slaves looking for a ballbusting man-hater will not respond well to a soft-spoken Mistress who asks them nicely to tongue-shine her boots.
A real Dominatrix is a naturally dominant one. She has a dominant personality and believes herself to be superior to you and should be treated with respect at all times.
A good submissive will always remember this and adhere to it at all times. He will know what she wants before she asks for it and will always know where the line is. If she walks into the room and throws her coat on the floor, you will pick it up without having to be told.
If she needs a drink, you will fetch it without being asked. If no seats are available, you will get on all fours and be her seat before she has to say to you. She should not have to tell you to keep addressing her as Mistress, Princess, Goddess or whatever moniker she uses. You should do it automatically.
Despite all this though, there is one other thing you need to be aware of. Many subs enjoy being punished. Spanked, flogged, slapped, spat on etc. Acting out or not doing tasks properly to be punished is not the same as not being a good submissive.
Any Domme worth her salt can tell when a slave is useless to one acting out in the confines of the fantasy roleplay in order to get the punishment he craves. You can do your tasks wrong and still be considered a good slave or worthy submissive.
If you join this Domination webcams live site now there are hundreds of Mistresses online who offer free femdom chat sessions where they can talk you through what is required of you, and they can also coax out of you what type of subby you are so that they can get the best from you, and use you and treat you like you want to be used and treated.
Basic Rules of being a sub
1 – Always address her by her proper moniker. Mistress, Goddess, Princess etc
2 – Never question her orders. Always do as she says straight away without question unless you don’t understand what she said
3 – Never backchat. She can call you all the names under the sun, insult your work ethic, berate you and call you stupid but you should never answer her back and accept all she dishes out most Mistresses can’t be do with Brat submissives, yes some Mistress do enjoy it but speak to your own mistress first and see where the ground lies.
4 – Thank her for punishing you. You must have done something wrong to deserve it so thank her for taking the time to fix what you are doing wrong so you don’t make the same mistake again
5 – Orgasms are a privilege, not a right. Don’t play with yourself or masturbate without her express permission. And if she doesn’t grant it, respect her decision
If you follow these simple and basic rules then you can’t go far wrong. Almost everything else will fall into place automatically and you will learn to be a good submissive in no time.
Take care and remember to always play safe
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